The first date is probably the most difficult, when men are desperate to know what they should say, how to act and what to do to make a good impression. However, most of the time men start out with canned conversation and their date turns into a job interview. The result is that she will be bored to tears and would rather be at home reading a book.

6 Tips for a Great First Date

Having a great first date isn’t as difficult as you may think and it definitely doesn’t require a script. Here are some tips that will greatly improve your chances at a second date.

1. Asking her out on a date means that you need to actually get in touch with her and sometimes calling first isn’t such a brilliant approach. Your secret is e-mail. For some reason women are more open and friendly with someone they have exchanged a few emails with first and are much more likely to take their call. So, if you want to make sure she takes your call and agrees to go out on a date with you, then you should start off with a few emails.

2. Most first dates usually imply that the woman is qualifying her date, in other words determining whether or not he is a suitable candidate to be a mate. However, you need to turn the tables and act as if you are the one doing the qualifying. This will be so unexpected that she won’t know what to do and you will stand out from the crowd.

3. One big mistake a lot of men make is to act too interested which translates into desperate. This initially puts you in a weak position and a woman will eventually brush you off. However, if you don’t appear overly interested, which you can do by even dropping the idea that you are simply interested in friendship, you will catch her off balance. She will be wondering what’s wrong with her that you aren’t interested and will think of you differently compared to all the other men in her life who are fawning over her.

4. So many first dates sound like job interviews where men are so terrified of making a mistake and creating the wrong impression that they stick to “safe” topics like family, jobs and other mundane topics. The problem is that “safe” will bore both of you to tears. You need to make interesting conversation and that includes talking about current events and similar topics. You will not only engage her mentally but you will also come across as a strong person who isn’t afraid to express his opinion.

5. Chivalry is not dead and can make a great impact. If you want to impress her then projecting a strong, confident attitude while being chivalrous will awe her. Opening doors for her, holding out her seat, if it is appropriate, and similar small gestures will set you apart and show her that you respect her.

6. If you want to make an impression take her out on a “different” date. Rather than merely the classic dinner and a date, you can go to other places where you can “do” things. Not only will she appreciate that you put some thought into the date but you will also have a wider range of topics to talk about. So, for example, you can go to an art gallery, a museum or even to some fun shops. These all give you topics for conversation that are not the classic mundane subjects while also showing her you put some thought into your first date and didn’t take the classic route.

These are just a few tips that will make sure you stand out from the crowd and will improve your chances for a second date, especially since she will be curious to see what you do next. Remember you need to engage her fascination and grab her attention. The only way to do this is to be different from all the other men vying for her attention.

 

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