If you’re dating a man and you want to get him to commit, you must tread carefully. If you really like the man, and he’s not dating you exclusively, you risk losing him by acting too ‘clingy’. This is how some men think. Not all of them, but enough of them to warrant watching your step. Instead of just coming out and asking the man if he will commit to you, which is sure to send him running for the hills if he’s even the least bit commitment phobic, ask him if he’s seeing anyone else. If he isn’t, then it’s alright to ask him if he wants to see other people. If he is seeing other people, then it’s right then and there that you have to watch what you say and how you say it.

Get Him to Commit

If He’s Dating Other Women

If the man is seeing other women, you should never ask about them or bring them up so that you can show them that they don’t bother you. Because the fact is they will bother you. In fact, they’ll be all you’re thinking about whenever you and your man aren’t in the same room together. Instead, you let him think that you’re dating other people. You don’t have to talk about it, but if he’s dating other women he should never think you’re not dating anyone else. That way, he’ll know he’s got some competition.

If you don’t want lie, you don’t have to. Just tell him that you don’t want to talk about. However, you can’t say that you’re seeing other men and then go out with this man every weekend. You must suddenly busy up your schedule. You must suddenly become unavailable, even if he’s used to you being there all the time. What this does is it creates a sense of urgency. That’s the best way to get him to commit.

 

Sense of Urgency

When you tell the man you don’t want to talk about it, and then you suddenly become unavailable, this will drive him crazy because he’ll see there’s actually a chance he may lose you. Now, for this to be extra effective, you must double up on the attraction whenever you do spend time with him. Really tease him mentally and sexually and let that tension build. Then he won’t be able to wait to see you again, only to have to wait because you’re making him wait. This is very effective and he will commit to you before you know it.

A sense of urgency is similar to the home shopping network commercials that tell customers they only have thirty nine seconds left to call! When he thinks he may lose his chance, he’ll really pursue you.

 

Taking it to the Next Level

If he’s not seeing anyone else, or if he is and you’ve created that sense of urgency, you can take things to the next level simply by asking. Or, you can even get him to say it by putting the ideas in his head. By telling him how great the two of you are together, and about how good the two of you look as a couple, he’ll start to think it, too. Then, even if he doesn’t bring it up, he’ll be very open to the idea.

Then, all you’ll have to do tell him you think you should take it to the next level. You can word it any way that sounds naturally for you. But if you’re prepared him correctly, he’ll undoubtedly say yes and then you’ll be able to enter into the fulfilling relationship you hoped for.

 

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