Online Dating: How to Spot a Player

Online dating has made it easier than ever before to find and meet men who have similar interests to you and appeal to you on a physical level in some way too. The convenience of being able to browse through hundreds of profiles means you’re saving time and narrowing down your choices more easily.

Unfortunately, some men have learned how much easier it is for them to meet more women, too. While most men on online dating sites have good intentions, there are those predators out there willing to get whatever they can from whoever will allow them, and usually with more than one woman at a time.

These types of men have a certain bad-boy allure that drives some women wild. They know how to make a woman feel special and really turn on the charm to get what they want.

So what happens if you do find a guy who seems great while you’re chatting, but ends up being a player? How can you know if he’s seeing more than one woman at once?

Here are some tell-tale signs that the man you’re seeing might be a player:


Romance for Hire

Players know the secret to making women fall for them quickly: they’re selling romance. These guys know that women love to feel special and loved and beautiful, so they’ll give you these things while you’re together to make sure he can get what he wants.

He’ll be sweet and loving and attentive when you’re around. Unfortunately, the moment you’re not with him, he may act distant and cold when you call.

You’re left feeling confused and uncertain. This can set up a bit of a vicious cycle, as most women will immediately try to figure out what they’ve done wrong and end up trying to get him to agree to another date so they can get that special feeling back again.

Players love to have women chasing them, so you’re playing right into his hands by doing this.


Who’s Making the Rules?

Players want you to play by their rules. This means they only seem happy if you’re playing along to the way they want things done.

If you find your man makes you set up appointments in advance in order to see him, or insists that he’s only available to chat or meet up at certain times, you might have to wonder if he’s a player.


Who’s Contacting Who?

Do you find you’re always the one calling him or emailing him, but he never seems to be the one to pick up the phone and call you? Oh sure, he’s happy to hear from you and willing to chat and even make another date. But you still have to wonder if he would have called at all if you hadn’t picked up the phone first.

If a man is really into you, he’ll find ways to stay in contact with you. While a genuine guy is unlikely to call every day, he also won’t wait around until you decide to call first.


Who’s Chasing Who?

A player will keenly pursue a woman he wants by using whatever means he has available. The moment you give in, he’s happy and he’ll shower you with affection and compliments that make you feel like the most special person in the world.

However, if you show him that you’re falling for him, he’ll begin to act irritable or begin to withdraw from you. The phone calls will become less frequent or maybe even stop completely and it’s harder than ever to get him to agree to another date.

Meeting a new man can be exciting and fun. But unless you’re sure that he’s got the right intentions, keep some of these tips in mind and you’ll be less likely to get your heart broken by a player.


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