Men have been trying to understand women for thousands of years and we still haven’t succeeded. This is because we expect to make sense of it all, except the problem is that men and women are hardwired differently. So, rather than make sense of it, we are simply better off knowing how women are wired and then acting accordingly.

Dare to Be Different

Emotion versus Motion

Women have completely different needs than men do. We watch sports, they ready romance novels. We read the paper, they drag us out to sappy chick flicks. We like action movies, they want drama and so on and so forth. Why? Because women want to feel.

Where men are competitive, want power and an adrenaline rush, women want emotions. Women live through their emotions, which is actually a good thing for us because it means that a woman will focus more on how a man makes her feel, rather than his looks, money, power or fame. While those factors are important to her, they will take a flying leap off the first cliff if you can make her feel wonderful.

We have the misguided notion that men choose their mates, when in fact it is the women who do. Oh, they allow us to think we are making the choice but it’s the women who says “yes” or “no”. If you understand this simple concept, then you will be ahead of over 95% of guys out there because you will understand that you need to meet her criteria and not expect her to go out with you because you chose her. The latter is a mistake many men make and while it may make them look confident and get them a date or two, eventually they will be left behind in the dust.

At the same time, women don’t want a sap. They want a man who shows he is strong enough to care for them, even though they don’t admit it openly. Remember that no matter how tough a woman is on the outside, there is a little girl inside who wants you to look after her. However, she’s not really looking for what you can give her because most women can easily take care of themselves from financial viewpoint. What they are looking for is a man who can support them emotionally and make them feel amazing.

There’s that word again – feel. As long as you understand that a women lives her life through feeling and emotion is what drives her, you will be able to stand out from the crowd and make an impression.

So, what does this all mean? Simply that you need to be different from the rest of the bunch. In other words, if you want to approach an attractive woman, don’t be a sap who kisses her rear end in the hopes that she will notice you. All she will see is a weakling who doesn’t have the strength to stand up to her, let alone take care of her.

You need to be confident bordering on arrogance, yet funny at the same time. You need to engage her mind and challenge her, while also showing her that, while you appreciate her “attributes”, she doesn’t scare you. You need to show her that you are in control and can make her feel wonderful. A woman will be much more fulfilled by a man who makes her feel great, even if he is an average guy, rather than a hot guy with plenty of money who acts like a weakling.

So, even if you are an average guy, that doesn’t mean you don’t have a shot. In fact, you will have a much better chance simply by knowing what women really want, which is definitely not another weakling fawning over her, telling her how amazing she is. You need to capture her interest, you need to fascinate her, even if it means being controversial. Once you can do that, the world will be your oyster.


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