Most men don’t realize how important their profile is to online dating. They simply rush through it, filling it in with what they see all the other guys are saying, put up some silly photos and then wonder why they can’t get a date.

Dos and Don'ts When Constructing Your Online Profile

Your profile is your calling card, it’s your introduction online. A good profile that is magnetic and has been well thought out will make the difference between getting a response and being ignored. The more time you spend on it, the greater your chance of setting yourself apart. Read on for some dos and don’ts when it comes to constructing your online profile.

1.      Don’t make spelling mistakes. It’s amazing how many men rush through their profiles and don’t bother to check their spelling. Come on, guys, it isn’t that hard to type up your profile in Word to check your spelling.

If your profile is full of spelling mistakes you simply give women the impression that you are sloppy, lazy and don’t pay attention to details. Yes, women notice the little things and spelling is one of the ones that really irritates them. It simply shows that you expect them to like you without you putting in any effort.


2.      Don’t use clichés. This is the 21st century and clichés are a definite no-no. You will just sound like all the other million guys who couldn’t be bothered to come up with something new and fresh. If you want to set yourself apart then scrap the clichés.


3.      Forget the walks on the beach. Really, do you want to say the same, exact things every other guy has said? Do you want to be the very definition of a wallflower and fade into the masses, or do you want to capture her attention and imagination.

Rather than being vague, be descriptive and specific. So, if you really love walks on the beach, get more specific and say something like “I love the feeling of sand between my toes and listening to the sound of waterfalls when I stroll on the beach at Hanalei Bay.” That’s definitely better than saying you like walking on the beach because you capture her imagination, you are painting a picture that she can see.


4.      Words are your most powerful weapon online and you need to use them to their maximum potential. This means you need to show who you are rather than tell. If you are funny and witty, show it in your profile, rather than telling them you are. Showing your humor gets the message across much more effectively than simply saying “I’m a funny, witty guy.” Weave humor and with throughout your profile and you will get the point across loud and clear.

If you like hiking and looking after yourself, then put up a picture of you engaging in the activity or tell a story that puts you in that position which helps to engage her imagination and shows rather than tells.


5.      Use active verbs and paint vivid pictures. There’s nothing worse than a profile full of passive verbs that don’t engage the reader’s interest. Passive is boring and you definitely don’t want to come across as boring. You need to paint vivid pictures with words to capture her imagination and get her attention.

Constructing an effective, attractive online profile is not difficult but it can be time consuming. However, the payoff is definitely worth it in the end, especially when you will have women contacting you of their own volition. The more time you spend building an effective profile the better your chances are of receiving a positive response.


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