One of the most important things you can do to improve your online dating success is to show that you are trustworthy. While it is just as possible for women to prove untrustworthy online, the number of incidents involving men is much higher.

Establishing Trust

So, that means that online you are essentially guilty until proven innocent in terms of trust. Therefore, you have to show yourself as being a trustworthy before you will get any attention from women in the online dating arena.

Even if you are the greatest guy in the whole world, women don’t know you and they don’t trust you. And so they shouldn’t. If it were your sister online what would you tell her? You would tell her to be careful because you know what guys think since you are one and that a guy will say anything to get her horizontal. You would also tell her that there are creeps and weirdoes at every street corner, let alone online. So, you need to work on creating trust because without trust you aren’t going to get anywhere.

Here are some tips to help you improve your image of a trustworthy person, because online you have to prove it.

1.      Don’t be overtly sexual. There’s nothing that will turn a woman off you faster than if you are overtly sexual in your communication with her or in your profile. You will simply come across as a sexually obsessed maniac and women will steer clear of you.

Trust me when I say that telling a woman she is “hot” and you want to get it on with her is not going to endear you to her. In the best case she will simply ignore you and delete your message, if you’re lucky. If not, she’ll send you a message telling you exactly what she thinks of you, and so she should if that’s all you could come up with.


2.      Don’t insult women in general. You don’t know who might be looking at your profile and insulting women as a whole will only antagonize any woman reading your profile. She’ll simply think that your attitude is towards all women and why should she bother with someone who thinks badly of her entire gender?


3.      Do post photos with your family and friends as this will make you look like a human being rather than a shark on the prowl. Photos with your parents who have been together for three or four decades is another good way to convey trust.


4.      Make sure you smile in your photos and not a toothy grin either but a genuine smile. Forget the bad boy look with sunglasses that hide your eyes. You will simply look like you have something to hide. However, a nice smile has the power to attract and can convey a multitude of other messages, including the fact that you are open and honest.


5.      Don’t imply that you date five women at the same time and they fall at your feet. That only impresses other men. Smart women will turn and flee because they want to feel special. If she feels she is just another potential notch on the bedpost then you can wave your chances bye-bye.


6.      Be honest. No, seriously, be honest from the beginning. Not only will you gain trust but you will avoid future traps. Also, don’t just state that you are an honest guy because it’s too salesy. You need to show you are honest and you can do that by explaining that honesty is a trait you value in others as well as yourself.

If you really want to be successful in the online dating arena, the first thing you need to do is create trust because a woman will only show interest in you if she trusts you. Online dating is a great way to meet women because you can show off your personality first and fascinate her with who you are, especially if you aren’t good at doing it in a social setting. However, you won’t get past “hi” if you can’t convince her you are trustworthy first.


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