When you date a man, it can be hard to gauge his true intentions. Did he ask you out and take you out because he thought you were perfect for him, or is he just interested in the physical aspect of the relationship? In other words, is he in it for lust or love? The truth is that his intentions don’t really matter. If you want to move things from lust to love, you only need to learn a few tricks you can use to make him change his mind.

Moving From Lust to Love

If the relationship is still young, you’ll want to wait a while before you start bringing up the L word. Telling a man you love him before he feels the same way is the quickest way to get him to run for the hills. If you’ve been going out for a while, though, you can bring it up but there’s no guarantee he’ll say that he feels the same way. Only you can gauge by his behaviour and by the way he treats you if he’s ready to move to the next level. If you’re getting that vibe, then tell him how you feel and hope he feels the same. If he doesn’t send out any vibes, it’s best to hint around so that you can plant the seeds of moving to the next level in his mind.


The Vibe

If you want to know if a man wants to move from lust to love, watch his body language and how he treats you. If, when you’re out together, he listens to what you say, makes eye contact and faces you with his body, chances are he’s really into you and any suggestions you make about moving from lust to love will be met with reciprocated feelings. However, if he’s not really listening to you and he hardly ever faces you when you’re speaking, he may have other things on his mind besides moving into a committed relationship with you. If that’s the case, it may be time to move on. If you feel good about how he treats you, however, it’s time to plant those seeds of thought.


Hinting Around

The first thing you’ll want to do when trying to move from lust to love is drop hints to him about what your intentions are. These hints can be dropped in normal conversation so that they’re not so obvious. That way, if he’s not really into the idea, you won’t be put on the spot. But these seeds will sprout in his mind over time and, who knows, he may even bring up to you that he wants to become more serious. Just planting the seeds of thought is sometimes enough to make him think it was his idea.

To hint around to him that you’re looking to get serious, tell him how great the two of you are together and see what he says. If he agrees, take a step further. Tell him you two make a good couple, or that you two are good at something, anything to make him think of you two as one cohesive unit.

If he still doesn’t get the hint, you may have to bring it up in conversation. It could be that he doesn’t feel the same way. At that point, you can choose to either leave to find a man who will love you, or you can choose to stay in the relationship with the hopes that he’ll change his mind later on. But if you’ve read his signals correctly, and you’ve hinted correctly, you two should be able to move from lust to love very easily.


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