You’re dating a man and you really like him but you’re wondering when the right time to get physical with him may be. This is a common question and it’s one with no easy answer. Generally speaking, you’ll want to hold off on getting physical at least until the third date, but you will know better than anyone else where and how the relationship is progressing. One thing’s for sure, you should never have sex with a man on the first or second date. Read on to find out why.

Getting Physical With a Man

The First Date

When you go out with a man for a first date, both of you may have mixed emotions. On one hand you’re probably nervous. You want to know whether or not the two of you will work out, you’re hoping the other person likes you, you hope you’re saying all the right things, etc. And on the other hand, you’re excited. There may be sexual chemistry built up, there’s the excitement of possibly starting a great relationship and much more. So if the date is going well, and there’s all these emotions being built up, it can lead you to want to have sex on the first date. Don’t do this.

Don’t even have sex on the second date, in fact. That’s because men love the chase. They love chasing a woman just as they love hunting. Consider a hunting trip where all the deer come to you and fall down dead at your feet. That wouldn’t be a very exciting hunting trip. And it’s the same with dating. Having sex on the first or second date is just like giving up the chase, and the man is likely to become bored.


Getting Physical

Instead, you should only get physical after the two of you have gotten to know each other. There must be a level of trust there, as well as a feeling of comfort. Sure, new sex can be exciting, especially when you have a combination of powerful emotions built up behind it. But the more you wait, the better it will be, and the more he’ll respect you once the sex is over.


Waiting Too Long

However, it should be noted that there is a point where you could wait too long for sex. If this is the case, both of you could become frustrated and that will lead to resentment. You don’t want that. Instead, gauge the right time by how he treats you. If he’s willing to wait until you two are comfortable with each other, than that’s the right guy for you. If he’s pushy and needy and wants you to have sex too early, however, that’s when you should begin looking for another man to go out with as this one is all wrong for you.


Saving Yourself

It could very well be the case that you don’t want to have sex, such as if you’re saving yourself for marriage. If this is the case, lay the rules down early. If he respects your wishes, again, he’s a great guy for you. But if he doesn’t respect your wishes, never let him push you into doing anything you don’t want to do.

The bottom line is that you should only get physical when you feel the time is right. There should be no pressure from him, and likewise there should be no pressure from you. Just let it happen naturally, let the relationship flow. Sooner or later, you’ll know when the time is right and that’s when it’s ok to take the relationship to the next, more physical level.


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